hey guys,
its been a while since ive been on here, but i could use some advice about now...
so here's my dilemma (sp?)...
ive now been with my bf for 3 months.. it got fairly serious fairly quickly, which i guess im ok with, we slowed it down a little.
lately however, ive just not been in the mood for sex at all. its kinda affecting our relationship because he's a horny male and im just totally not interested... i can think of a few possible reasons as to why, but i could use some help in ways i can fix this... i really want to be in the mood for sex!!!

i recently changed from the pill to the depo injection. that was around the time i stopped being horny. i think there's a chance it may have also affected things like my smell (ive heard going off the pill can change what you like and dont like in terms of pheromones... could this be the same thing?)

i havent been exercising (uni can be thanked for that) uni is also another potential factor of stress

whilst he's the best partner ive ever had in terms of good sex, he still has trouble sometimes getting the right spot and i find it frustrating sometimes if i dont orgasm because he's so set on getting me there.

he's currently living in someone's basement because he got kicked out of where he was living... we dont have total privacy down there. he moves into his own place in a week or so... im hoping that fixes it too...

so any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated...
im only 20, and i love sex so there is no reason why i should be so disinterested!
thanks,
-strawb.

OK, there are several things to consider, but you've kind of self diagnosed the problems. First, you should have a discussion with your doctor , since the medication change could be contributing to libido change and perhaps some adjustment is in order, although most physicians will suggest that new meds take a few months to get you regulated and for your body to accommodate, but still ask.
The mental issues about privacy, about having sexual encounters that end somewhat frustratingly are part of the learning aspect of partners, in all their zeal and desire to " do it right" and hit the right spot all the time.
Add to that other pressures of school etc.
The combination of all these factors will make it more difficult to orgasm, and will add a mental downer on your desire.
Fix each one of these and I'll bet you will be in heaven again. But still speak to the doctor.

yea thanks...
im hoping fixing these will work...
is there a chance im just not sexually attracted to my partner? thats also a question thats been floating around in my head...
im pretty sure i love him... im just not interested in sex!

Now you have to get inside your mind and search for real reasons for your change in desire. You have said that you enjoy sex and that alone should begin to clue you in as to whether your libido (desire) is down selectively for him, or generally. If some hunk of a dream guy came along and swept you away, would your libido still be low ?
I think not. So what is the deep down turn-off with your current guy? You did say he was an attentive and "the best partner you've had" but number one, how many sexual partners have you had at 20 years of age, how experienced could they have been, and how experienced are you ? There is something else though that is turning you off, you're asking the question, "is there a chance I'm not sexually attracted to my partner ?" You state that you are "pretty sure that I love him", why, if you are not sexually compatible? If you are asking these questions, your relationship is dysfunctional and the question of love is a stretch. If you love him, you should feel that you can't live, eat or breathe without him and your sexual life together would be dynamite. You are too young to be grasping at a relationship if is is not meant to be.
Having said that, there is no reason to not try to improve your physical sexual activity by talking and experimenting together to learn and teach both yourself and your partner. But just don't totally ignore what your head is telling you if the spark isn't there. Accept reality and either give this relatively short romance  a chance to blossom (if there is hope) or terminate it. So many young couples hang on for fear of not having a partner ( or imagining the difficulty in establishing another comfortable and rewarding relationship) . Don't do that to yourself, because such hang on relationships strongly inhibit the likelihood of moving on to better situations. There is nothing more motivating to get out on the "prowl" than to be in need for a quality person in your life. Poor sex is not a good omen for the longevity of a couple's togetherness.